When Molly Kochan received a Stage IV diagnosis at just 38, she realized her life would never be the same. What followed was a series of choices that shocked some, inspired others, and ultimately reshaped her final years.
Her journey began with a divorce. Molly admitted that her marriage had already been struggling, and her diagnosis made her confront what she truly wanted. She later explained,
“Being sexu*l is the antithesis to death. Se* also makes me feel alive and it’s a great distraction for being sick.”
What she described as a “sexu*l awakening” became the core of her story. Molly began dating openly, experimenting with preferences, and meeting new partners. Reports suggest she ultimately slept with nearly 200 men, something she documented through her blog and conversations with her best friend, Nikki Boyer.
Together, the two friends launched the podcast Dying for Sex, which chronicled Molly’s experiences in candid detail. The podcast later inspired a Hulu series of the same name, starring Michelle Williams as Molly and Jenny Slate as Nikki, introducing her story to millions worldwide.
But Molly’s reflections were not only about intimacy. She often wrote about connection, illness, and the difficult balance of living with a terminal diagnosis. She revealed how support from friends faded after her initial announcement, but she found comfort in those who stayed.
“I was with the people who were meant to be there,” she noted.
Her most powerful words came in her final blog post, published on March 8, 2019, the day she passed away. In it, she rejected the idea of offering sweeping life lessons.
“I don’t have those kinds of life lessons to share. I know what I did at the end of my life. I know what brought me joy. But my list would surely not affect you.”
She acknowledged her frustrations at not being able to finish projects, but she also found peace in acceptance. “The only thing I can work on is being without the guilt of not doing. Accepting that my days are what they were.”
Molly’s final words were simple yet unforgettable. She ended her note with a farewell that continues to resonate with those who discover her story:
“All my love – m.”
Her life may have been cut short, but Molly Kochan left behind a message about choice, freedom, and living boldly, even in the face of death.
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